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Mum’s Powerful Message about Her Baby’s Death: “If I’d Given Him Just One Bottle, He’d Still be Alive”

On what would have been Landon’s fifth birthday, his Mum, Jillian Johnson, has courageously silenced her grief to share their story and speak about the death of her son.

Jillian has struggled with wanting to share what happened to Landon for a long time, out of fear of others perceptions and judgments. She hopes that by sharing her story it will help to prevent other families from experiencing the loss that hers has been suffering.

Before Landon’s birth, Jillian and her husband thought that they were doing everything in their power to prepare themselves. “We took all of the classes. Bought and read all of the books. We were ready! Or so we thought . . . “ she shared on the Fed Is Best Foundation’s blog. “Every class and book was geared toward breastfeeding and how it’s so important if you want a healthy child.”

They even decided to deliver Landon at a “baby-friendly” hospital that flowed with an emphasized breast feeding philosophy. After Landon was born via emergency c’section he exclusively breastfed. Despite lactation consultants saying that “he had a great latch and was doing fine,” one noted that Jillian might be having trouble producing milk.

After hospital staff evaluated Jillian’s risk factors for difficulties with milk production, they had Landon continue to solely breastfeed, even though he would constantly cry unless he was on his mothers breast. Jillian felt like she was continuously breastfeeding and when she asked why her baby was always on her breast, she was told that it was because he was “cluster feeding.”

“I recalled learning all about that in the classes I had taken, and being a first time mom, I trusted my doctors and nurses to help me through this – even more so since I was pretty heavily medicated from my emergency C-section and this was my first baby,” she wrote. “But I was wrong. I’ve learned I have to be my child’s number one advocate.”

Landon nursed over nine hours during his first 24 hours of life, but after being alive just 53 hours, he had lost 9.72 percent of his birth weight. That is staggering! Landon was discharged at less than 3 days old and continued to frequently and exclusively breastfeed “with a mother whose milk had not come in.

“So we took him home . . . not knowing that after less than 12 hours home with us, he would have gone into cardiac arrest caused by dehydration,” she wrote. “Did you know newborns aren’t supposed to cry all the time? They’re supposed to eat and sleep and dirty their diapers. I had no idea that he was inconsolable because he was starving – literally.

After getting home, Landon fell asleep while cluster feeding and became unresponsive with no pulse, and turned blue. After 15 days on life support, the newborn passed away. “The best advice I was given by one of his NICU doctors while he was on life support is ‘Sure breast is best, but follow with the bottle,'” she wrote. “This way you know your baby has eaten enough. If only I could go back in time.”

Dr. Christie del Castillo-Hegyi, an emergency physician with a background in newborn brain injury research at Brown University, explained how Landon died as a result of dehydration, which was followed by cardiac arrest caused by brain injury:

Constant, unsatisfied nursing and inconsolable crying are two of the signs of newborn starvation that lead to brain-threatening complications. If a child is receiving a fraction of their caloric requirement through early exclusive breastfeeding, they can experience severe hunger and thirst, which is why they will cry inconsolably and breastfeed continuously when it is the only source of calories and fluid they are offered. If a mother’s colostrum does not meet the child’s caloric requirement, they will breastfeed for hours a day in an attempt to relieve their hunger. A child who is “cluster-feeding” may actually burn more calories breastfeeding than they receive in return, which can result in fasting conditions and accelerated weight loss.

Five years on, his mum is still battling with endless guilt and questions of how different her life would be if she had just given him a bottle.

“And anger because how would I have known? I remember when Stella was born, and she was always quiet. I kept asking the nurses what was wrong with her. They said, ‘Nothing. She’s doing what she’s supposed to,'” she wrote. “Sleeping. Eating. And it was then that I realized that it wasn’t normal for a newborn to cry as much as Landon did. He was just crying out from his hunger. But I didn’t know. I should’ve known. I still struggle daily feeling as though I failed him.”

Breast milk is, of course, the best and most beneficial form of nourishment for your baby. But the pressure and lack of support for mothers who struggle to breast feed is incredibly detrimental to the health and wellbeing of both mother and infant. We all have the greatest and best of intentions for our new babies but when breast feeding doesn’t go to plan, there needs to be a holistic and supportive approach, not be met with shame and a sense of failure for not succeeding. Fed is best. If mother and baby are happy, healthy and flourishing then thats all that should matter.

Laura Sheehan

Laura Sheehan is an early childhood teacher and Perth based mum of two to Brody aka 'The Hurricane' and Daisy aka 'Little Ray of Sunshine.' Laura hosts a small blog The Whole Mummy looking at all things Mummy, the good, the bad and the ugly with brutal truth and honesty. Laura works closely with the Meningitis Centre Australia, having nearly lost her Hurricane to Meningococcal B Meningitis, as well as the Stillbirth Foundation Australia due to the heartbreaking stillborn loss of her second son Beau. Laura, along with her former Wallaby husband and their family aim to promote awareness of these two tragedies, offering support and encouraging greater understanding of each. They are ambassadors for both the Men Centre and The Stillbirth Foundation You can follow and learn more about Laura's story on her blog thewholemummy.com and her social media (Instagram and facebook links).

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