I yell at my kids more than I’d like to admit. I shouldn’t give excuses for the behavior, but usually I find myself succumbing to using my voice louder than normal when I’m tired or my older girls have been disobedient and have quite frankly ignored me when I’ve used a normal tone.
I’ve started to notice my older two girls yelling to each other when they’ve had a fight which means they’ve learned a terrible habit from me. So in an effort to control my yelling, here are some things I do to try and extinguish my fuse so I don’t yell and can get a grip on my emotions.
- I count to 10 and breathe in and out. Those 10 seconds give me the time to get some clarity on the situation. It also gives me time to use my words wisely.
- If the counting doesn’t work, I place the tip of my tongue at the top of my mouth. I once read this on a blog (I can’t remember which one!) and I haven’t forgotten it since. It has worked for me when I’ve remembered to use it. I don’t know why it works but next time you’re inclined to yell try it. I think it helps you focus on doing something with your mouth as opposed to yelling.
- Walk outside and yell or scream. Let’s be honest, being a mum can suck at times. If the kids are ratty and you’re tired and emotional, these don’t mix well together. Sometimes releasing the emotion is enough to pull yourself together and deal with the kids in a different manner.
It’s important to make sure you are getting time to do creative pursuits or activities that make your heart sing. I find when my tank is full, I’m less inclined to yell and I have a much longer fuse.
I would love to know what other mums do to prevent yelling at their kids? Do you have any tips to share?